Curving back onto my nature, I create again and again

Curving back onto my nature, I create again and again

I started this blankly staring into the computer screen, determined not to budge until something came out of it.

And frankly, when I started out on my own, four years ago, I had no idea where I was going. I’d love to make up a story about how I always knew I’d be a copywriter and strategist one day. Nope.

All I knew was that I was out of the corporate bubble and that I’d never work for a day in my life. I was going to do what I’d always postponed to do. The stuff you muse about on the midlife crisis wintery nights. I was hyped.

I also had money in my bank account for at least half a year of exploration and flight tickets lined up for a month of places I’d never been before, including my first surf spot ever.

And explore I did. I plunged into filming a documentary about my aikido buddies. That flexed my create-from-nothing-with-tools-you-never-used-before muscle. Also, the look-like-you-got-it-while-you-clearly-don’t. All in all, excellent practice.

As one of my favourite people to ever walk the earth said, “it was the brave thing to do. I was marching into the unknown armed with nothing.”

Then my first batch of would be clients emerged. Friends who needed websites or were launching products. And so the kitchen counter writing frenzy started.

It felt a bit off not to dress up in the morning and curse through traffic. I got used to it. (Now I have writing practice, meditation and yoga instead. Woo-hah!)

I was staying up tinkering home pages and making sense of their course materials. I’d been doing that in my corporate jobs for years, anyway. Now it was online.

So I got educated. I went to B-school, wrote with Laura Belgray, who also recommended Selena Soo, and charmed me into the Money Boot Camp (worth it). At her workshop I met my friend Monicka, who’s got this cool retreat for supergirls, and couldn’t shut up about the 90 Day Year.

I took the 90 Day Year, too. There’s life before and life after. But more on it some other time. I’ll just say all the odd bits and pieces of paper on my desk I used to make lists on are gone.

Then Amy Posner came along and opened the Copy Hackers era, where I actually learned the ropes. To the point where I can say in seconds if the messaging is off. Then where to look to fix it.

Looking back I remember the landmarks: first day out of the job. First client. First copywriting and strategy client. First course. First time I called myself a writer in public. In groups. To strangers and to people who knew me. First website. First serious breakdown. First client I never knew before.

And especially first time I called myself a positioning and messaging strategist for innovators and thought leaders.

This is not a your-heart-will-lead-you-home piece. Although it will. This is a jump-in piece.

If you’re struggling to voice out your choice from a sea of options out there, you have my utmost and complete compassion. I’ve had my guts massacred with the agony. (I had bills to pay so I kept going.)

But I know this: I can’t catch a wave from the shore.

So if your idea is not that clear yet and you only have half of an innovation or the embryo of a thought, get it in front of the people it’s for. It doesn’t have to be big. Work it. Test it. Get the right pair of eyes on it. I’ll reason with you for 20 minutes. It’s a start.

PS. The line in the title is from Bhagavad Gita. (I finally came down to reading it.) To me it’s a crisp way of saying you have a core. And you replicate it again and again, like a DNA. That’s your work. And while you’re alive, it never stops. Book.

Say what you do in one line

Say what you do in one line

I dare you. That’s your UVP.

I call it your DNA. Because it replicates again and again and becomes your work. (Turn it on its head for clients, and it becomes a tagline.)

It’s the hardest thing. I did a short documentary once, about my aikido friends. Do you know what the toughest question was? What’s the movie about. When I started mumbling, I knew I was in trouble.

Nail that, and you have a shot. You graduate to the realm of execution Minecraft. No guarantees there, either, but at least you get to play.

Yes, you got that right. Without a good UVP and a good tagline, you don’t even get to play. You’re in the sidelines, hoping to score with no ball coming your way. There’s no ball in the sidelines.

Can you figure out what these guys do?

Can you be as crisp about your business or your idea (if you’re treading in start-up)? No worries if it’s not fancy or smart. You don’t need it, samurai’s honour.

And if you can’t, grab pen and pad and scribble a bit.

I help X with Y, where X is the client you can’t have enough of till the end of time and Y is the thing you would regret most not doing if the world came to an end tonight. That work.

(If it’s not that intense, it’s not the end of the world, I promise. I mean, I don’t think it’s coming tonight. Just work with what you’ve got going.)

Unload all that and look at it. Have you just blurted out some giant frog? Are you strangely proud or relieved? Scared out of your wits or still very, very confused?

By the way, this is not hard for start-ups only. It’s hard for everyone. Because your business evolves and you understand your client better or differently, and that needs to show in how you name your game.

That’s what the DNA says: it gives shape and form to your game. The tagline communicates that same shape and form to your client.

Your tagline is your DNA in clientspeak.

And if you can’t figure it out on your own and look for a translation bureau, that’s what I do.

“I help women tune-up for health beyond 40” or “I help innovators build unicorns” are the beginning of a matrix. The tip of the iceberg. The portal to a world of words that put you in the limelight for your business’s true love: your clients.

I love going there with you. I help thought leaders and innovators like you word out their product. Crisply.

For all thought leaders hiding out there

For all thought leaders hiding out there

If you feel the mission bursting inside your brains, but coming out like frail thread of pure mountain spring, this is for you. I get you’re busy. I also get you may not see yourself as a blogger or content machine.

And still, how do you get that stuff out of you and into the world?

I’ve heard this quite a bit lately: “I feel I have something to contribute here.” Symptoms include insomnia, irritation at garbage on mountain meadows, pictures of petroleum drenched pelicans, or whatever sets you off. Or glazed eyes through chain meetings.

That’s the game crying to be let out into the world. You may not admit to it at first and that’s fine. That thing that makes you want what you do will take care of itself.

If you’re angry, that’s hope rummaging through your veins like Alien. Rejoice! The object of your affection is near.

Think of the person you’ve felt safest with. The one you’d tell the “I-like-Jeanie-in-5th-grade” x 10 kind of secrets. You’d let them in on your dream project, right?

“I have a book inside me,” “I want to change the way we think about midlife,” “I want my course to go international,” or “I want garbage free mountain trails.”

There’s an agony to keeping that in. But you can’t just process a website/course/new product right now. So where do you start?

Here. You start right here, right now. Open a new document and name it “What my voice sounds like” and then set the alarm for 20 minutes.

Now think of whatever exalted or horrified you in the last day or so and pour it on the page. Not much to think, just write. In fact, do that every day for at least 3 weeks. Ideally, do it for at least 750 words each time.

Here’s the trick I just learned from someone awesome: tie it up to something you do anyway. It makes you stay in the game.

Almost every morning I wake up and do my morning pages. (I wrote about it here.) It keeps my content machine churning.

So to make sure I do the 20 minute thing, I need to do that immediately afterwards. It’s like going straight into a second episode of Friends. Yours could be your first cup of tea or brushing your teeth.

Then each week, spend some time reading through the lines. Any common thread? Do you find yourself wandering back to bringing honesty to the big corporate finance machine? Or bitching about mansplaining?

There’s something there, so get closer and sniff a bit. Now you’re looking for an entry point.

All you have to do is see one hue that’s there. One detail that’s real. You’ll know if you find it. It will ring true and you will feel very, very awake. That’s Universe talk for you’re on the right track.

What’s next? You keep at it. You make a nice string of very, very awake moments. The rest will get handled in the process. I don’t know how. It’s a mystery.

P.S. You might need a website for it. I’ll figure you out. You know where to find me.

For when you need your creative juices to flow, baby, flow

For when you need your creative juices to flow, baby, flow

First thing to do when under pressure, prescribes guru Don Draper is abuse whoever can help you. Then take a nap. Not sure I’d go that way, although the nap may come in handy. Way better than a Youtube binge.

Let’s not fake it in here, I know exactly why “I don’t know where to start” looks like: going through the luggage section of your online trap of choice just to see what’s on, when you don’t need new stuff. Scrolling down on Facebook on autopilot, your hand chain-feeding sesame crackers to your mouth. Before you know it, it’s been an hour. Taking 5 to reply to a quick email that’s really, really, oh, so urgent, generally takes 30.

I tell you, it’s like looking for shampoo in the fridge. Inspiration doesn’t live there. I have a few go tos instead. I treasure hunted through some of the finest minds around and gave them a try. Here’s what I got:

1. Tune in

Let’s just assume that whatever is doing the creating (the ear your daemon whispers into, your brain, your heart or whatever you think it be) is an instrument. A state of the art thing, but still an instrument. You will need to brush it up, oil the joints so that when you push the on button, it starts churning. That’s why you need The Morning Pages.

To cut a long story short, every morning, as soon as you get up, you start handwriting whatever crosses your mind for 20 minutes (about 3 pages). Give it a few weeks before you’ll catch yourself plunging into big work without the water-is-wet diva attitude.

I could go on for hours about this. Here’s what made me do it when I read about it in Tim Ferriss’s book: Brian Koppelman, the guy who recommended it, a great film producer and podcaster, by the way, said he’d give Julia Cameron’s book to 100 people. Out of 100, 10 would open it. Out of 10, 7 would go on to have TV and movies made, books published, and made out successful.

(I do not get a commission off this. But when you find something you love, can you shut up?)

2. Get rhythm and stick to it

Call me crazy, but whatever work I do has a vibe. Mix in the client’s, the project’s and mine, and you get a flavour. Not for a second do I pretend to be able to control it. But what works, works.

So let’s just say I noticed that every-time I need to dive deep for a tagline, for instance, some song will just land in my player. I go for it on repeat again, and again, and again. It gets my writing machine going like no other.

I just did a tech launch. I swam in White Snake’s Sailing ships for days. I switched to Johnny Cash afterwards. Pink does it for me, too. I dare not disturb the Universe with a why, I just get on and say thank you. Hail to the masters!

3. Go for a quickie with Greatness

It can be anything, as long as it’s really well made. Expose yourself to great work, there’s nothing like it to get your creating ducks in order and ready to march.

Youtube comes handy here for shorts (The Nerdwriter is a good option). So does Nowness, but it can be a podcast, comics or the series you’re binging at the moment.

It needs to get you in a state. It needs to make you see the wave and jump on it. Because, my friend, we are as good as the wave we get on. And when we catch one, we’d better make the most of it.

4. Meditate for 9 minutes. Everyday.

Sorry, buddy. That’s how it works. I didn’t make the rule, I’m just telling you what did it for me. Make it 15 or 20 if you can. But 9 is the minimum. Brace yourself for clear-headedness.

5. Ask the question, if you can stomach the answer

I learned about the I Ching when I was in high school. It’s my go to for major (strategy) questions. Not for everyone, though.

You may have to wrap your mind around taoist metaphors. Like figuring out what “it’s beneficial to cross great rivers. It’s beneficial to have a place to go” could mean (that was an easy one). So I make sure I only toss the coins if I do have a question. Think of it as a meet up with the wise. Don’t trouble them for what you already know.

But if you’re hardcore, here’s another: my friend Monica gifted me her tarot deck. It’s bring-it-on, is-this-for-real accurate. She devised an entire creative journey around it. Her book tells you all about it here.

Most of all, sit down and start.

I’m not being a smart ass, promise. I just read “things are not hard to do. What’s hard is switching gears to creation mode” and I thought you should know, too. Brancusi the sculptor said it, and he should know. I also personally heard one of the greatest painters alive I know say he sometimes doubted himself. But then he paints anyway.

It’s the crispest I can put it: show up. It’s enough to start with.

(Then go to item #1. I’m telling you, it’s dynamite).

Now you.

 

Could I love these 5 life-hacks more?

Could I love these 5 life-hacks more?

It starts small. A tiny seed, fragile and unassuming.

Getting something off the ground is no small feat, though. It may end up taking over your days and nights.

Which makes you so lucky, you’ve got something you care about so much, you’re giving it all. You don’t see that when it happens. It’s all deadlines, email sequences and offerings.

And your confidence or lack thereof (because some days are just grey) will spill into everything you do. Or do not do, for that matter. Some days feel like doing not much at all, as my couch will testify.

On days like that I dig deep into my hero skills and cherrypick. You can go at it from all sides or you can deliver one masterful stroke. Let me round some suspects:

1. Declutter

Whatever’s been lying around, not getting much use, not bringing me much joy gets to walk the plank. A raid through the closet and kitchen cabinets will satisfy me some.

(I still can’t believe I parted with my favourite jeans. They were threadbare. Or the really fancy pair that looks good on bony models, but makes me feel like a flat bottomed middle-aged auntie.)

2. Do one thing, beginning to end

It can be quite small. Youtube chain watching does not qualify. Baking cookies does, for all those overachievers out there. Reading a 20 minute piece will work just fine.

I’ve been meaning to read that story in The New Yorker about family rentals in Japan. It echoes my high school idea for a business: rent-a-wife. No, it did not involve any funky business. Yes, it does sound charmingly stupid.

3. Make a list

Because list making is one of the biggest joys in life. I will put down my to dos and meal plan for the week, my must haves in skincare and my latest insights I want to hang on to for a bit. May I suggest a Stuff-that-makes-me-feel-good list?

4. Go to the masters

Whoever they are. Dip your toes into their wisdom. For me, that’s watching an episode of “Comedians in cars, getting coffee.” Yes, I am fascinated with Jerry Seinfeld. Or I’ll flip through some of my how-to-be-an-artist coffee table books. Like the one on Alexander McQueen’s larger than life Savage Beauty show. (Because the creative process makes me go gaga and I’ll rummage museum shops like nothing else.) Star Wars books and comics will also do, if they’re your thing, that is.

5. Shut down the system

Before you do, try life-hack #2 reinvented: live something. Anything! Get out and buy broccoli. Call somebody and chat about the life affirming meaning of boredom. Count hairs on the floor in cow pose for 5 minutes on each side (you put one leg on top of the other, that’s why you get two sides. The pose is great for clearing through emotional knots, by the way.)

Assuming all else fails, head to the holiest of the holies: unplug and go to bed, preferably with a kids mystery book. There’s always tomorrow. But put your legs up the bedhead for 15 minutes first. That alone has a list of benefits longer than my arm.

Your turn.

PS That’s me and my friend getting caught up in life-hack #3.